The go-to resource for parents with trans or gender-questioning children, authored by the parent of a trans child.
If your child or teen recently told you they are transgender, non-binary or genderfluid, you’re bound to have questions. You may wonder how best to support your child’s transition and doubt whether you are making the right decisions.
When her son came out as transgender, Tammy Plunkett had the same worries. In Beyond Pronouns, she shares her candid experiences learning to navigate her child’s transition and provides clear and practical guidance to help you do the same. She deals with many frequently asked questions, including:
– Is this a phase?
– Why not wait until they’re an adult?
– How do I tell others my child is gender-diverse?
– Where do we start a child’s transition?
Offering gentle guidance through the first 100 days and beyond, Tammy uniquely addresses the need for parents to be supported so they can best care for their child. You will find ways to face common fears, have important conversations with your child, be a good ally and much more, with age-appropriate approaches that aim for a happy and connected family.
“This book will come to the rescue of parents faced with the reality of a child not identifying with their gender assigned at birth. It is written by someone who has lived through this experience, in a practical, realistic, open and non-judgemental voice. It reminds us to be gentle and forgiving to ourselves as we support our gender diverse children to navigate their transition journey.” — Dr. Danièle Pacaud, Pediatric Endocrinologist and Dr. Martin Vetter, Child Psychiatrist, Alberta Children’s Hospital Metta Clinic (Pediatric Gender Services)
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“This book is incredibly important and I’m going to make sure to have this available for any parent/person who want to read this. I’m so incredibly in love with this. I adore Tammy Plunkett and I don’t even know her and I will forever be so grateful for her and her son for putting this book into the world.” — Emma C., a NetGalley reviewer.
Tammy Plunkett is the mother of four children, all of whom identify as queer, including her third child, who came out as transgender at age 11. Tammy is a certified life coach, writer, and speaker who began her career as a registered nurse. She founded a monthly support group for parents of transgender children while serving on the board of Airdrie Pride. She lives in Alberta, Canada.
“As the parent of a transgender/nonbinary child who recently came out, I’ve been seeking books to help me process the various emotions I’ve had and learning as much as I can. I’m not much of a nonfiction reader, so I have to admit that sometimes it feels like a chore. But this book was different – I really enjoyed reading it. It is written in a way that feels more like talking to a friend who’s been there than a factual handbook. It’s the best book for parents of transgender children that I’ve read so far, and I think it’s exactly what I needed right now.
The author of this book has a transgender son, so she shares their story throughout the book. I think it really gives the book a personal touch, The book felt very validating, recognizing the range of emotions and experiences that a parent goes through as normal, and gently guiding you in a direction that is best for you and your child. Multiple times the book talks about how we need to take care of ourselves if we want to properly support our children, and this was something I really needed to hear. Each chapter ends with some reflective questions meant for journaling and processing what you have read.
I love the wonderful analogies that the author gives throughout the book, especially the one about how it’s like being on a bus. It puts this experience into terms that are easy to understand and really give a great perspective. I’ve talked about it with both my husband and therapist when explaining things. It’s helped me understand in a way that I then can help others understand.
I loved this book so much that I’ve already preordered a paperback copy for when it releases. This is a book that I think any parent of a transgender child should read.” — Danita, a NetGalley reviewer.