Beyond Pronouns is an unvarnished account of a mother’s inner transformation when her child comes out as transgender.
From the outside, it appears as if her family is grappling solely with the transition of a girl to a boy. But beneath it all, the author is masking her grief, dealing with the consequences of hiding from the shadows of her past.
Ashamed of her childhood, Tammy vows to do everything in her power to build a better life for herself and her future family. But she falls wide of the mark, adopting the Stepford wife persona instead of genuinely connecting with others. Although outwardly Tammy shows her support to everyone around her, she secretly grieves the future she imagined in her own proverbial closet.
Beyond Pronouns explores the medical and social ramifications of a child transitioning at puberty. Revealing both the mental health implications of having estrogen coursing through the veins of a teenage boy and the devastating effect of losing friends at this crucial developmental stage.
This poignant memoir exposes how the author deals with both veiled and overt prejudice, not just in the world at large, but in her own heart and mind. Her son’s unflinching determination to stand firmly in his truth inspires Tammy to adjust her sails, bringing her back to the vow she made at a similar age, ‘to do everything in her power to build a better life for herself and her family’. She no longer dwells upon what others think of her. Her only concern now is what she thinks of herself.