In a world that’s increasingly recognizing the importance of diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging (DEIB), businesses that commit to these principles are positioned for phenomenal success in 2024 and beyond. It’s not just about keeping up appearances or even being socially responsible; it’s about fostering a thriving, dynamic workplace and a strong, lasting reputation. Let’s explore the top 10 benefits of embracing a DEIB strategy:
Retain Star Staff
We’ve all heard of the labor shortages, and we also know the pains of high turnover and the costs of repeatedly onboarding. When you prioritize DEIB, you create an environment where your top talents feel valued and respected. This not only helps retain your star staff but also attracts new, diverse talent looking for inclusive workplaces.
Gain More Market Share
Inclusivity attracts a wider customer base. If your customers see themselves mirrored in your team, they are more likely to return. Companies that genuinely embrace DEIB often enjoy increased market share as they resonate with diverse demographics.
Make More Money
It can be difficult to convince a small business to embrace DEIB just to do what’s right; it also must make sound financial sense. The data about profitability is overwhelmingly clear. Diverse teams bring unique perspectives, sparking innovation and creativity, which can lead to increased profitability.
Connect to Your Core Values
A DEIB strategy helps businesses align their actions with their core values. It’s not just a PR move; it’s a commitment to creating a workplace that reflects your beliefs and principles. Whether it’s integrity, sustainability or innovation, your DEIB strategy strengthens your values.
Have a Comeback When People Use Derogatory Terms
With a DEIB strategy in place, your organization is equipped to respond confidently and appropriately when derogatory terms or incidents occur. Part of creating belonging in your workplace, living your values and retaining top means that you demonstrate that exclusionary behavior is unacceptable.
Be Less Reactive and More Purpose-Driven
A DEIB strategy prepares your organization to handle diversity-related challenges proactively. Instead of reacting to issues with heightened emotions as they arise, you become purpose-driven, fostering a culture of belonging.
Use Updated Policies and a Clear Strategy
A well-defined DEIB strategy guides your decision-making process. It provides a framework for assessing opportunities and challenges through the lens of diversity, equity, and inclusion. This efficiency extends to hiring practices, promotions, and everyday operations. It helps with resolving disputes, because when your employees know what to expect, they’re more likely to trust the decision-making process. Moreover, it helps you set priorities and allocate resources wisely, ensuring that your efforts are directed toward initiatives that will have the greatest positive impact on your organization’s success.
Protect Yourself from Public Backlash
Businesses without a DEIB strategy often face public backlash when issues arise. With the popularity of social media, the public has little tolerance for organizations that don’t take a stand on social justice issues. With a proactive strategy, you’re less likely to be the target of negative attention.
Fearlessly Speak Up and Be Heard
Your employees are more likely to speak up when they know their voices will be heard and valued. A DEIB strategy empowers your team to share their insights, fostering a culture of open dialogue and a sense of belonging, and you get to benefit from the new ideas your team dares to share.
Better Understand Others’ Experience
Developing a better understanding of what others experience is a cornerstone of a successful DEIB strategy. It promotes empathy, which is essential for fostering positive workplace relationships. When individuals within an organization can relate to the experiences and challenges faced by their colleagues, it builds trust and mutual respect. This, in turn, leads to more effective collaboration as team members are better equipped to work together, appreciating each other’s unique perspectives and contributions. The result is a more harmonious and productive work environment.
Embracing a DEIB strategy isn’t just about fulfilling a social responsibility; it’s a strategic move that can significantly enhance your organization’s performance in 2024. By retaining talent, attracting new customers, and fostering innovation, you’ll position your business for long-term success while contributing to a more inclusive and equitable world.
Book a Discovery Call with me to explore how my Inclusive Communications Audit or introductory training can be tailored to meet your unique needs. Whether you’re seeking a comprehensive audit to assess your current DEIB strategy or initial training to kickstart your organization’s journey, I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
For the past two months, I have been immersed in a Global DEIB Strategy certificate and have loved almost every minute. Were there uncomfortable moments as a non-disabled, cisgender, queer, white woman? You bet there were. But I would argue that if I wasn’t uncomfortable at times, I wasn’t learning.
One of the suggested readings for the course was The Wake Up: Closing the Gap Between Good Intentions and Real Change by Michelle Mijung Kim, and with a phenomenal over-deliver on the part of our instructor, Dr. Cornell Verdeja-Woodson, Michelle Zoomed in for a Q&A during the course. Here are my big takeaways from the course, the book and Michelle’s time with us.
Know why you want to do this work
Actual progress in creating inclusive environments and dismantling systemic barriers can only be achieved when the commitment comes from a genuine desire for change. When people and businesses engage with Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging (DEIB) work solely to avoid being called out or for the sake of appearances, the efforts remain shallow and fleeting, lacking the authenticity required for sustainable transformation. As I mentioned earlier, this is hard and uncomfortable work. If you’re in it for the wrong reasons, giving up is too easy when the going gets tough. But my children are still transgender no matter how weary I get, and a person with a disability doesn’t get to take the disability off just because they’re tired of fighting the good fight.
On the other hand, when we dive into this equity and belonging work from the heart, it’s a game-changer! We understand how important it is, and we’re genuinely fired up about making things fair and just. That’s when we become real change-makers and help others to jump on board too. When we walk the talk and stay true to our values, we’re creating a whole new vibe of empathy and compassion. And guess what? We’re moving full-speed ahead to a future that celebrates diversity, keeps equity alive, and makes every single person feel like they truly belong.
Yes, white women can help
Allyship means that if I am in a room of only cisgender people and someone says something disparaging towards the transgender community, I speak up. I am not transgender and have a great deal of privilege, so I use that privilege. The same applies to race. I will never know the discrimination a BIPOC person faces daily, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be an ally. Am I uncomfortable when a person of colour mentions a long history of white women’s saviourism? Of course! But my white fragility points to where I need to do more work.
I am a firm believer that we as white women need to overcome our guilt around recognizing our racial privilege because if we all come together as marginalized groups—racial, ethnic, ability, neurodiversity, gender diversity, body size, housing access, sexual orientation—we end up being a majority against those sitting at the top with all the power. If white women choose to sit down and be quiet for fear of being called out, the patriarchy and white supremacy win. To this end, historically marginalized groups also need to let go of looking for perfectionism in allyship if we are to get ahead.
Oppression needs liberation
Through The Wake Up and my DEIB course, I have learned that being a true ally means centring historically marginalized people. These individuals are experts in their own experiences, strengths, and needs and deserve to have their voices amplified and their perspectives respected. Instead of being “rescued” or “spoken for,” they should be empowered to be the architects of their own liberation.
Authentic allyship involves actively listening to and learning from these communities, understanding the hurdles they face, and working together to break them down. We’ve got to drop the idea that we know everything and what’s best and instead be committed to tearing down unfair systems and building a world where all perspectives are appreciated and celebrated. That’s how we get closer to a truly fair and inclusive world where everyone can shine without barriers holding them back.
So, do I believe white women need a wake-up? Some do. I think we’re always learning. We can learn to let go of our need to save others to earn a gold star and embrace empowering the historically oppressed. One of the ways we can do that is by reading Michelle’s book The Wake Up. To the white women who are actively doing the work, I see you. Keep it up!
Find out more about how I can offer training in your organization here. Book a discovery call here if you want to take more significant action by Braving Up Your Business with one-on-one Allyship Coaching.
Have you ever been enthralled by a leader’s energy and completely wrapped up in their brilliance that you ultimately start to lose a little bit of yourself? There seems to be a safety in being in service to someone else’s vision that can blind us to what we are missing out in our own lives.
This Could Be You
I’m going to tell you the story of one friend whose name I have changed. Know that I have seen this happen to many other women. Too many. In fact, I think we’ve all taken on this role to some degree at some point in our lives.
Sally is new on her entrepreneurial journey. Her kids are in school full-time now and she is ready to redefine her career with the freedom of working from home. One day, she takes a workshop with a modern-day guru—a female Tony Robbins, Gabriel Bernstein, Brene Brown, Susan Evans, Martha Beck type person. She is completely in alignment with their mission to change the world and the way they go about it, so she signs up to be a certified teacher of their program. Invests money in their training and immerses herself in their system. This is all well and good. These people have amazing insights and methodology to share and there’s a lot of benefit to the world to practice what they preach. She’s found her calling.
The Handmaid Trap
Problems start to arise when Sally doesn’t take what she’s learned and make it her own. She doesn’t become the star in her own life. Instead, she is the servant to the star, teaching for the star, using the star’s name on all her handouts, following the star’s rules of conduct, living within the limits of the branding. And, inevitably, resentment starts to slowly seep into Sally’s heart. But the resentment makes her feel guilty because she owes so much to this guru who taught her everything and exposed her to so many opportunities, to say anything about the limitations of servitude would be biting the hand that feeds her.
Without even realizing it, sometimes the guru sets the handmaid up for failure by having her so dependent that the handmaid can never leave. But, if and when she does leave, it is not a smooth goodbye. There is an incestuous network around the star and Sally knows she has to unplug from that whole entourage as well if she is going to make it on her own.
I know some servants who stay in the handmaid role forever, I know some who leave one guru and move on to another, but Sally managed to break free and rebrand and make a name for herself. She went within and did a lot of soul searching and work on herself and eventually became a thought leader in her own right. Shining like a brilliant star, weary of employing handmaids.
Writing as a Handmaid
As a writing coach the handmaid energy comes up most often when I see someone who has written several chapters in several anthologies but has not yet dared to write her own book. I also sometimes have clients come to me for help with their stand-alone book, finally ready to break free, but waver and choose to pull out of our engagement because they decided instead to invest in a trip to serve alongside their guru at a retreat or a conference. But mostly, I have clients who just need a little extra help when writing their book to realize that they have original and important messages of their own and they don’t need to be quoting today’s other gurus. It can be difficult at times to find a balance because as women we thrive in collaboration and community, but community should never be at the expense of being your true self.
Becoming the Star
Part of my life’s mission of giving women a voice involves holding up a mirror to the handmaid and asking her to see the star inside of her. I want all women to know that we are all born with a unique gift for this world and to put it to use. Sometimes our life’s purpose is to end a cycle of abuse as we raise our kids, sometimes we are here to offer amazing services or products in a career or as an entrepreneur, and sometimes we are here to lead by example and impact people we will never even meet in a way that might change their life.
And so, I offer to you now, check-in with yourself and see when you might be living in the handmaid energy with some relationships and explore how you can make a change. Be true to your calling and rise up!
There’s something about the month of January and the New Year that has us all setting goals and new intentions for our health, our careers, and our relationships. Some call it resolutions, others say it’s a lifestyle change. Call it what you will, you will need two elements to make it happen: Commitment and a beginner’s mind.
Here I am, on my yoga mat unable to even touch my toes. Again. Huffing and puffing halfway through my second sun salutation makes it hard to believe that fifteen years ago, I would do 4 hours a day of yoga at an ashram. My inner dialogue is quickly taken over by my inner itty-bitty-shitty-committee. “You’re getting too old for this. Look around you everyone here is gracefully sliding through to the next pose. It’s been ten minutes and you can barely breathe, obviously it’s time to quit. Maybe, if you weren’t two-ton Sally and a size zero like the rest of them you’d be able to actually stay in down dog and not have to collapse into child’s pose instead. This is embarrassing, you are embarrassing. Just give up already.”
Have you ever heard that critical voice in your own head?
It happens to all of us and in a variety of different situations. Cutting out sugar from your diet will make a donut literally talk to you. Choosing to get up earlier to run before work makes 5 am darker and colder than it ever was before. The self-doubt as you sit in front of your keyboard ready to write that book you’ve been meaning to write for years can immobilize your fingers and freeze your thoughts into a block of jumbled words. These are the things that stop us dead in our tracks when it comes to resolutions and lifestyle changes. So how do we mere mortals overcome that inner critic that lives inside every human being on the planet?
The beginner’s mind
It can be very humbling as a grown adult who has the rest of their “stuff” together to find themselves in the start position. You can be very successful in other areas of your life like leading a team at work, running a business, or managing a household with children and a spouse’s schedule to maintain. And suddenly there you are fumbling around without a clue.
I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to say to my children, “If you would just do what I suggested the first time you never would’ve gotten into this mess.” Preventing a mistake is easy when you know all the steps and have practiced them a thousand times before, but the whole point of learning (for our children and ourselves) is to actually make the mistake. Adults don’t like to make mistakes.
Part of the reason we quit on resolutions and change is that we want to get it perfect right away. We don’t want to take the time to learn and we don’t want to look stupid or clumsy while we’re learning. But if we could just embrace that innocent curiosity of a toddler exploring the world and allow ourselves the time and mistakes we can see the beautiful dance unfolding in our inability to march in step with the experts.
It’s been said by many a great motivational speaker, “Are you just interested in (fill in the blank) or are you committed?” I have to admit, I’m interested in learning to mountain climb. Me, who is afraid of heights and can’t breathe through two sun salutations. I would love to scale those majestical beasts here in the Canadian Rockies and take pictures of the vistas from the top of the world… But am I committed to purchasing all of the climbing gear, including harnesses, climbing shoes, helmets, ropes, and carabiners? Am I committed to climbing in the bitter cold? Am I ready to let go of my other hobbies and focus my time and attention on learning this new skill? Not really, not at this point in time. I’m not saying never, just not now.
What are you committed to? What do you want so bad that you can taste it? That you can see yourself in it that you can feel the emotions it will create? The best way I have found to stay committed to something is to know WHY I want it in the first place.
Here’s a great commitment exercise
(which, by the way, you can do on any day of the year multiple times of the year not only on January 1st)
- Take a journal and write out the goal you want to achieve
- Write out why you want that goal. What purpose does it serve? Who will you be when you reach that goal? What will be different in your life and/or in the world?
- What do you have to do or say Yes to in order to reach that goal? What do you have to stop doing or say No to in order to reach that goal?
- Take a piece of masking tape and laying down in a door’s threshold or lay a broom handle on the ground. Read what you wrote in your journal out loud to yourself or a trusted friend or partner and then cross the line. Just like jumping the broomstick in the African and Celtic cultures you will be married and committed to your goal.
Here I am again, on my yoga mat pushing through my shortness of breath inching closer to touching my toes allowing myself to be a beginner and embracing my commitment to my health and wellbeing. Who knows, maybe a year of practicing mountain pose will lead to a commitment to climb a mountain one day.
Are you looking for a little extra support to reach your goals this year? Drop me an email and I would be happy to offer you a complimentary discovery call to see if coaching with me will get you there.
It’s no big secret that I talk and write a lot about empowering women to stand in their personal power and speak their truth. “Stop hiding and speak up because you matter,” is my everyday mantra. So what do I need to be coming out about?
The big secret is how much I don’t speak up in everyday life.
I was on a mastermind call this past Monday and I waited to be called on before I talked about my project. Why? Because it’s going so well and I’m too excited and too passionate about it lately. Really. I didn’t want to overshare?! Over Shine?! Inspire too much?!
What was that all about?
This is a very common phenomenon for women. We don’t speak up in case it makes someone else feel small. We don’t take credit because we don’t want to come across as selfish or narcissistic. We don’t complain because we’ll be seen as a bitch. As much as I try to inspire other women to speak up… I myself don’t. Not often enough.
When is it appropriate to shine?
Shining comes from the soul and overshadowing comes from the ego. I offered a lot of valuable insight and resources to my fellow masterminders on Monday. I shined. Not for the sake of wanting to be better than anyone else but for the sake of sharing what I knew in order to see their projects flourish. Overshadowing would have looked much different. Overshadowing lives in the world of comparison and better than. It would have involved monopolizing the time and, instead of offering help to others, looking for ways to use their projects for my own gain.
Coming out for the sake of what?
Today’s culture is ripe with masses of everyday people to celebrities coming out as gay, lesbian, and transgender. It is wonderful to see. I wonder, what benefits do they reap on the other side of the closet door, and how as women can we follow their lead and also benefit from daring to speak our truths in public? I make up that we are all stronger and more confident from being our true authentic selves. I also heard that Canadian Olympic swimmer Mark Tewskbury shaved 4 seconds off his swim speed after he came out to his coach as a gay man. But there’s more. There’s the source of our creative self that is freed when we live authentically. How can we create from a place of hiding? We can’t. And to me, creating is everything.
Brene Brown offers great wisdom on whom to share your truth with, and how. We are not all meant lay our souls bare for every stranger to see. And again, ask yourself, for the sake of what? We need to add context to our sharing to make it about shining and not narcissism.
What are you hiding in your closet and who can you trust to share it with? Who will you be on the other side? I’m still learning at this game of life. This week, I have learned that I will be speaking up and over shining more often.
I take it for granted now that there is often a theme that arises from my coaching clients. Somehow, they come to their sessions with common issues and I have stopped wondering why and just accept that this is part of how the Universe works. This past week’s theme though is a theme that hit me personally.
Men just aren’t listening! It’s time to speak up, ladies.
My first client is working on healthier boundaries with an ex-husband who was financially abusive. She is frustrated at the litany of topics she can’t bring up with him when they discuss co-parenting because he gets defensive, argues, and turns the tables on her. My second client is a CFO at a very successful company and is working on her leadership style. She is frustrated with a partner in the company who refuses to take responsibility for any challenges but wants all the credit for the triumphs. Both said to me on their coaching call: “I can’t say anything to him because I don’t want to deal with the fallout.”
Are you not speaking up because you don’t want to have to deal with the listener not liking what you have to say?
And then, just to drive the lesson home, the Universe sends me several messages to watch the Super Soul Sunday episode with Glennon Doyle where I received the clear message: “There is a system to telling the truth that splits women in two. It’s very hard for the world to hear the truth from a woman. Since negative emotions are less acceptable from a woman, we sometimes end up telling our truth in different ways than words. We tell the truth in harmful ways: they say I’m not fine with a credit card, or they say I’m not fine with overeating, they say I’m not fine with booze, or sex, or unkindness. That why it’s so powerful to integrate those two selves and tell the story of what’s going on on the inside with your words,” shared Glennon.
Deal with the fallout now or later
When are we women going to embody the full expression of ourselves? When are we going to allow ourselves to take up all the room we are meant to occupy? When are we going to be more concerned about our own feelings and break out of the prison of tiptoeing around others’ feelings?
“If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself.” – Cheryl Richardson
The thing is, human beings tend to avoid pain on a whole. We all like to avoid the unpleasant things in life. What we don’t realize is that sometimes we are turning down one road to avoid the skunk up ahead only to walk into a grizzly bear instead. What happens if my first client’s ex-husband is abusing his daughter but she doesn’t want to make waves? What happens if my second client gets scapegoated for the partner’s major spending spree? Dealing with the fallout of an uncomfortable conversation, while slightly painful, could be much less dramatic.
And what is my unspoken truth?
I don’t want to be mommy first and get to my career when it’s convenient to everyone else, not anymore. I have sacrificed my body to gestate, deliver, and feed four children. I have devoted over twenty years to their education, their emotional intelligence, their values, their mental and physical health. I have dried tears, shared belly laughs, survived road trips, attended plays and concerts, and graciously accepted macaroni art and bouquets of dandelions. I have been an excellent mother. I love them beyond words. My unspoken truth is that for me it’s not enough.
I will always be a mom and have another ten years before my nest is empty, but right now I also want to be Tammy the author, Tammy the speaker, Tammy the coach who is empowering women to speak their truth and live a full, authentic life. I am claiming my truth and standing in my full power to be my full self.
That’s my unspoken truth, what’s yours? Where in your life are you keeping silent to make others feel comfortable, and what is it costing you to keep it bottled up? Is today the day that you choose to stand in your power?
Speak up, ladies, speak up!